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“Humans see what they want to see.”
— Rick Riordan, The Lightning Thief
having parents that were really angry and petty and abusive when you were young is weird, because it makes part of you grow up to want to be kind, to generate good things, to be a source of peace and wellbeing for others; but it makes another part of you grow up to be quick, and sharp, and spiteful, and that’s always the part that shows itself first in a hard situation, so it’s a struggle between your hateful gut reactions and your wish to not add any more misery to the world. it’s a hard balance, and the people who really, really know me - i know they see that anger flash in my eyes before i quiet it, if i quiet it…i want to overcome years of conditioning, and with gentle, constant force, i know i’ll mellow it. it just takes time.
“Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to. It’s not for them.”
— Joubert Botha
“You cannot feel what you do not feel; you cannot be blamed for that lack.”
— Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters
If someone shows you time and time again they wont or arent ready to give you love , believe them and spend your energy instead on looking for those that dont need convincing to stick around
if your heart ever tells you that something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore it
6i:
SAVING MONEY IS SO FUCKING HARD CAUSE IT’S LIKE YOU GOT MONEY SO YOU’RE OBVIOUSLY NOT BROKE BUT YOU HAVE TO PRETEND LIKE YOU’RE POOR SO YOU CAN SAVE
if you are being hard on yourself over a decision you’ve made in the past because you feel it was a poor decision, just remember that you made the best decision you could for who you were at that moment, and with what information you had available to you - try your best to be forgiving and kind to yourself, and look towards the decisions you have to make, not the ones you’ve already made
“Let them judge you. Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren’t your problems. You stay kind, committed to love and free in your authenticity. No matter what they do or say, don’t you doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Just keep shining like you always do.”
— Scott Stabile
i think it’s important to realize that no matter how good you are to people, it won’t make them good to you
after experiencing “feelings” i have decided that this just isn’t for me but thank you for the opportunity
“It’s a sad day when you find out that it’s not accident or time or fortune, but just yourself that kept things from you.”
— Lillian Hellman (b. 20 June 1905)
“A good test of a relationship is how well you both deal with challenges. If one person is more invested, it shows. If you’re with the wrong person, it feels like too much work. But if you’re unhappy more than you’re happy, it’s not the right relationship for you.”
— Susane Colasanti, All I Need
I hope you surround yourself with people that make you feel good enough
“It doesn’t matter what other people think of you. All that matters is what you think of you.”
— Robin Sharma
“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”
— Oscar Wilde
others’ opinions of you as a person do not and will never dictate who you truly are; the only one that can decide who you are as a human being is yourself
dating someone shouldn’t exhaust you
dating someone shouldn’t be painful or upsetting
if you’re dating someone and you feel this way then something probably isn’t quite right ok. please take care of yourself
Platonic love is not a runner up to romantic love. Platonic love isn’t second place. Platonic love isn’t less real, less valid or less powerful than romantic love. Don’t let your platonic love take a back seat to romantic love.
“Our friendship isn’t ending if time separates us. You’re always welcome to talk to me, to discuss why you’re down or why you’re happy. We will pick up where we left off, even if years have passed. Time doesn’t remove you from my heart.”
— To all my friends: pop up and talk because I miss you all and I don’t know when the last chance to talk might be before I go. // Written by J.A.Fiddy ( @jarfidd )
One day, you will find someone who will respect you and you’ll be giving and receiving. But, even if you have all of that, there’s still a possibility where everything just stops, and you need to let people go because you will feel like it’s time. Doesn’t mean you never cared about them, but because you feel like there’s a next step to it, and that’s okay.
It’s okay to keep moving forward, even when the friendship/relationship is good.
Don’t ever think you know the the reality of someone’s life or relationship just because you follow them on social media. People only show what they want you to see. Don’t ever convince yourself that you know for even a second what goes on behind closed doors.
“If we’re dating, you can have your freedom. You’re not my prisoner. Just stay loyal and be honest. That’s all I ask.”
— (via thegoodvybe)
Please stay alive for you and not for me or anyone else, it would make your life and your love feel so much more meaningful to everyone, and I love you sm!!! but please live for you
Don’t ask me “what are we” after we’ve been hanging out everyday for the past 3 months, going on dates and meeting the fam. We’re friends.
“If you love and are loved, whatever you do affects others.”
— David Mitchell, The Bone Clocks
“Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.”
— Paulo Coelho
“Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep, really to sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell. And when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough.”
— Ernest Hemingway
“I know that I am ruined and that I’m ruining others…”
— Fydoror Dostoevsky, from The Complete Works; “The Insulted and Humiliated,”
You might notice
That I’m pushing you away
Don’t take it personally
We’re just not friends anymore
Remember?
It shouldn’t feel this hard to keep living everyday. It feels impossible.
“I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.”
— Albert Einstein
- No, to people when you don’t feel like hanging out
- No, to people who don’t deserve your time
- No, to people that make you feel uncomfortable
- No, to people that threaten your happiness
- No, to people that don’t let you be yourself
- No, to people that make you ashamed for what you like
im sorry for always ruining everything. im so fucking sorry.
“Language most shows a man; speak that I may see thee.”
— Ben Johnson (b. 11 June 1572)
It’s Ben’s birthday, so let’s take his advice. Reblog this if you want anyone who is lurking on your blog to message you.
some things are out of our control – not everything is your fault or your problem
I’m tired of girls trying to invalidate their own feelings during times of pain, especially to their friends. Your break up meant something. That friendship you lost was a hard blow. I understand why you feel tired this semester. Sometimes this “modern woman” stereotype is patriarchy’s last attempt; patriarchy disguised as feminism. You don’t have to be “wise beyond your years”; your pain and crying does not mean you are not intelligent. If you feel your friends demand justification for your pain and ordeals, they’re not friends. You’re strong but human. Remind yourself emotional space is part of liberation.